Wanna be my fren?

Was caught up in a weird situation yesterday. Makes me wonder so hard about me and my ways.

Ok, here's the story:

I came to know a friend's sibling was going overseas, so I asked the sibling (whom I also know, in contact with & my husband's long time neighbour/friend) if it was ok to help me do some shopping to make use of the good exchange rates.

And the sibling said OK, no problems and I was happy.

After the sibling returned, my fren asked me why she was not informed of my request.

Then she went on to say that I was not nice to her sibling previously and does not see why her sibling should be nice to me (by helping me to make the purchases).

She also state that her family are basically very nice folks who will always say yes to other's request. She would like for her family members to be given a chance to say no to me when requests are made through her instead of being direct requests.

Ok fair enough.

So I wanted to make more light of the situation since, I was the not-so-nice person, I better be sure that my hubby's stand is clear as well.

It turns out that if my hubby asks her sibling direct, it would be ok, cos they have been long time neighbours.

So does it mean that if the sibling can say no to her long time neighbour but not to long time neighbour's wife? Or its ok to help a long time neighbour but not the wife?

Maybe there is another way to interpret the situation, but i cannot help but feel hurt and disappointed that the line was drawn so clearly before me.

I cannot even count the numerous things I have done for this friend yet it seems that they do not matter anymore, at least not when her family is concerned.

I grow up listening to my parent's stories of how well they know their friends and friend's families. I yearn for that kind of extended family closeness amongst my friends, but today's society, most folks prefer to keep the two apart (I dunno why). So perhaps alot of assumptions were made on my part and have caused inconveniences to others. I have to learn to stop asking and just stop assuming that close friend's family is also family. When I try to take good care of a friend, it doesnt mean that the family benefit from that.

Best part was when the conversation kinda came to an end, my fren asks if we are still friends after this.

And I worthy of her friendship still?

Pain Pain Go Away

Once, a doctor told me that pain represent a signal that your body is giving you. That there is something not exactly right, so we have to listen to that "pain signal".

For the past couple of months, there have been this strange set of pain occurring not before, not during but close to the end of my menstral cycle.

I've had all sorts of pain related to my menstral cycle before, those terribly intense ones on the 1st day of the cycle. It feel like there's an excavator digging along the womb, it occurs randomly and when it does, its so intense that you will have to just stop whatever you are doing. The only way to seek relieve from that is to bend down and hug your womb tightly. I can still recall the many times I do that in the corridors of my lab (where there are less people).

Many years of enduring that pain later, I found out that my intestines were attached to an old wound, making it terribly difficult for the intestines to do their job (freely flowing in the abdomen) and therefore causing the intense pain whenever they try to shift away from the wound.

After the operation to separate the intestines from the wound, I did have a few years of peaceful periods.

Now, I just want to curl up in bed for the whole day during the early parts of my period. :(

I am scared... what if the intestines are stuck again? What if the giantmorous cysts r back again? So many what ifs. *bleah*