Hurting remarks
I've always been someone who thinks or knows that I understand children, how they behave, how they can be disciplined. And I honestly cannot stand poorly disciplined children, pretty much as it is the responsibilities of the parents, at times I also bring it upon myself to "help" with their disciplining.
Some parents are appreciative of my "actions" as they could be so caught up with many other things and the moment for correcting a child's behaviour has to be done on the spot when they err.
Some parents are not so appreciative and perhaps in their minds their biggest questions is:" Who is this person who is barren trying to tell me what to do with my kids?"
At that point, I bet they must have forgotten that I have grown up with babies, infants, toddlers, pre-schoolers, kindergarden-ers since I was 5years old. I've been to countless of children related camps, volunteered countless of hours at childcare centers and somehow (I cannot identify how) I have developed these "insights" about children which I'm truely dying to test them out on my own kids. (which I'm yet to be able to have which is already painful enough as a daily reminder of the situation, I have to take bitter, gross looking TCM for it)
Maybe it is because I KNOW that those words will come out of someone's mouth one day, some day, and knowing that they WILL hurt, it becomes something that sticks out of a conversation when it DOES come out of someone else's mouth. Am I making sense here? In short, I am looking for those hurting remarks when I should not be or perhaps, exercise restrain whenever I need to in the presence of these unappreciative parents.
It becomes even more hurting when it comes from a sibling, someone who JUST asked me how was our baby making plans just 2 bloody days ago. I cant help but feel angry, resentful and most of all hurt at this insensitive remark. I know there will be more to come and I will have to learn to deal with them, forgive them for saying these hurtful words and perhaps most of all, forgive myself for not being able to fulfill my lifelong dream.
Some parents are appreciative of my "actions" as they could be so caught up with many other things and the moment for correcting a child's behaviour has to be done on the spot when they err.
Some parents are not so appreciative and perhaps in their minds their biggest questions is:" Who is this person who is barren trying to tell me what to do with my kids?"
At that point, I bet they must have forgotten that I have grown up with babies, infants, toddlers, pre-schoolers, kindergarden-ers since I was 5years old. I've been to countless of children related camps, volunteered countless of hours at childcare centers and somehow (I cannot identify how) I have developed these "insights" about children which I'm truely dying to test them out on my own kids. (which I'm yet to be able to have which is already painful enough as a daily reminder of the situation, I have to take bitter, gross looking TCM for it)
Maybe it is because I KNOW that those words will come out of someone's mouth one day, some day, and knowing that they WILL hurt, it becomes something that sticks out of a conversation when it DOES come out of someone else's mouth. Am I making sense here? In short, I am looking for those hurting remarks when I should not be or perhaps, exercise restrain whenever I need to in the presence of these unappreciative parents.
It becomes even more hurting when it comes from a sibling, someone who JUST asked me how was our baby making plans just 2 bloody days ago. I cant help but feel angry, resentful and most of all hurt at this insensitive remark. I know there will be more to come and I will have to learn to deal with them, forgive them for saying these hurtful words and perhaps most of all, forgive myself for not being able to fulfill my lifelong dream.
posted by Jen | 10:53 AM
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